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Next up from our VillageQ community, let’s meet Brent. I was very excited when Brent agreed to be interviewed, because I really enjoy his Facebook page. That seems random, but it is good and you should check it out.  

To participate in our series, please email clare@villageq.com for more information. 


Name: Brent Almond

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Wedding Day family photo. From top to bottom: Brent (Daddy), Jon, Nick (Papa) (Photo by Piper Watson)

Age: 45

Hometown: Long answer: Grew up a military brat, so no real hometown to speak of. Have lived in DC area for almost 20 years. Short answer: Kensington, MD

Social media handles: @DesignerDaddy on Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest, Instagram. Also @SuperLunchNotes on Instagram

Number and ages of kids: 1 boy, 5 years old

Number (and type) of pets: 1 Portuguese Water Dog, 9 years old

Day job: Graphic designer, aspiring children’s book author/illustrator

Relationship status: Married legally in April 2014. Together 17 years.

Favorite children’s book: Hardest question yet. Currently The Bear Song. And pretty much anything by Todd Parr.

Favorite flavor of ice cream: Ben & Jerry’s Chocolate Fudge Brownie FroYo

How did you create your family?

Open adoption, through a private agency

What challenges have you faced as a queer family and how did you overcome them?

Overall we’ve been incredibly lucky. We’ve had some strained relationships with family members, not having their full acceptance of us as a couple or a family. But on a day-to-day basis most of our challenges related to being gay have involved questions our son or his classmates have had. “Why don’t you have a mommy?” “Jon doesn’t have a Mommy because she’s dead.” Or our son asking “When do I get a mommy?” We’ve been able to deal with them fairly straightforwardly, though we know the challenges around this will continue to evolve as our son gets older and has more sophisticated questions.

Who else provides childcare? It takes a village. Who’s in yours?

My parents live fairly close, as do my younger brother and his wife and daughter. Our go-to sitter was also our son’s daycare provider when he was a baby, and is practically family.

What did your parents do well that you want to emulate? What mistakes did they make that you hope to never repeat?

I want to emulate my parents compassion and willingness to listen. And I never want my son to think who he chooses to love is wrong or a sin. My parents don’t believe that now, but it hasn’t always been that way.

Describe your favorite family moment.

Wow, that’s a tough one. So I’m choosing two! 🙂

The first was traveling to Italy to visit my husband’s parents, and so our son could meet his Nonno (Grandpa). Spending a week surrounded by over 20 loving, welcoming family members was so incredible. And all the homemade Italian food? Amazing.

The second was having our legal wedding ceremony in our own backyard, surrounded by friends and family, with our son between us. When we originally told him we were getting married, and that he’d be the ring bearer, he replied “I’m gonna get to ring a bell?” So that’s what we had him do. Once we were pronounced husbands, he rang a big bell, and all of our guests replied by ringing small bells. It was a perfect day.

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Laughing and hugging with just a small portion of our extended family in Italy. (Photo courtesy of Brent Almond)

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One Comment

  1. Brent, thank you so much for taking the time to talk with me. I loved getting to share your family.

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