Post Tagged with: "Cheryl Dumesnil"

Leprechaun Trap #15
(Not that I'm counting.)
Family / Parenting

The Lesson of the Leprechaun Trap

Leprechaun traps, homemade science experiments, lemonade stands, vehicles made out of cardboard boxes – I used to love this stuff. Over the past nine years, I’ve amassed volumes of photos of the kids getting crafty, smiling in their paint-covered smocks. But lately, I’m just not that into it.

Embracing the unicorn
Family / Parenting

Embracing the unicorn

This kid. The one who, four years ago, stopped wearing t-shirts with writing on them – even his all-time favorite, “I’m with the band” shirt – because “I don’t want anyone to talk to me about them.” This kid who, for two years running, has chosen the most innocuous Halloween […]

Winning the homework wars
Family / Kids / Parenting

Winning the homework wars

 As the end of winter break inched closer, B-Man asked, “Do you like it better when we’re in school or when we’re out of school?” “I love spending time with you guys,” I answered, “and when you’re home, I don’t get much work done. So I like both.” But I […]

Silent morning, holy morning
Family / Kids / Life / Parenting / Spirituality & religion

Silent morning, holy morning

Every morning I wake up at six o’clock, half an hour before my wife and kids. I stumble – yes, there’s actual stumbling involved – out to the kitchen, toward the coffee maker that’s lit up like a friend, having timer-brewed my morning cup. I pour the steaming ounces into a […]

What we talk about when we talk about sperm donors
Family / Kids

What we talk about when we talk about sperm donors

When my wife Tracie and I chose to conceive our children using an anonymous sperm donor, we entered our family into sparsely documented psychological territory. At the time, the first children to participate in our sperm bank’s donor identity release program were turning eighteen years old, and as the program […]

In Honor of Childhood Crushes
Culture / Life

In Honor of Childhood Crushes

In celebration of National Coming Out Day, I am sharing the poem “Clarissa’s Great Aunt,” which I wrote to honor of all those childhood crushes that I had not, at the time, recognized as crushes, because I didn’t know girls could like girls that way. Who was your first crush?   CLARISSA’S GREAT AUNT That summer […]

No child labor laws were broken in the making of this photo.
Family / Kids

Training Wheels

  I’m talking on the phone with a woman who’s interested in buying our 2003 Jetta, a.k.a. Greta, when K-Bird starts pestering me. First the “Mom, mom, mom.” Then the tapping on the back of my hand with his finger. Then the full-body nudging from behind. I nudge back and […]

Anxiety Mom vs. Adventure Kid
Family / Parenting

Anxiety Mom vs. Adventure Kid

Years ago, I reframed my understanding of courage by adopting this phrase: “Bravery doesn’t mean acting without fear; it means feeling scared, but taking action anyway.” Since then, whenever I experience fear — say, when my children want to ride on the outside of a cable car roaring down San […]

VillageQ: A Little Castro in Your Laptop
Identity / Life

VillageQ: A Little Castro in Your Laptop

  I am a middle child, chronologically situated three years after my sister and five years before my brother. But the middle-ness of my place doesn’t end there. On the spectrum of living experiences, my sister, a dedicated stay-at-home parent, enthusiastic cheerleading coach, and recently-blooming tennis superstar at her athletic […]

The View from Here: San Francisco City Hall, June 26, 2013
Family / News & Politics / Parenting

The View from Here: San Francisco City Hall, June 26, 2013

Regular contributor Cheryl Dumesnil files this report as one of our penultimate regularly scheduled posts in the “Lawfully Wedded Life” series here. It is fitting: what the SCOTUS Day of Decision looked like from her family’s eyewitness point of view. A bit of backstory: Cheryl has been following this issue for […]