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Marriage equality in New Jersey is music to my ears
News & Politics / Sex & relationships

Marriage equality in New Jersey is music to my ears

We are one step closer to equality in New Jersey.  On Friday, September 27th (my nephew’s birthday), Superior Court Judge Mary Jacobson ruled that denying gay people the right to get married was to deny them federal protection and benefits. Joy & jubilation!! And then our beloved governor (and I […]

Forgive and forget
Life / Sex & relationships

Forgive and forget

As I mentioned before, I’m getting married in a few days (this weekend, actually!) and I’ve been thinking quite a lot. I’ve never dreamt of a wedding and I don’t think of it as a magical day and I don’t have certain expectations. I’ve been going with the flow and […]

VQ Sex Ed: Coming Soon
Family / Kids / Sex & relationships

VQ Sex Ed: Coming Soon

Once upon a time, I set the fence in our backyard on fire. It was a little fire and I put it out quickly but it left a mark – on the fence and on my pride. Luisa had asked me to start the charcoal in the grill and I […]

The Absolute Truth of Love, Death, and Taxes According to the IRS
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The Absolute Truth of Love, Death, and Taxes According to the IRS

Guest author Jerry Capell lives in Chicago with his Partner of 17+ years and two children.  On those rare occasions when he is not threatening his children with bodily harm, he is the CEO, President and co-founder of Urban Renovators.   My partner Kevin and I have been talking about […]

When things don’t go as planned
Life / Sex & relationships

When things don’t go as planned

Plans rarely go as they should (at least for me) but that doesn’t necessarily mean things go bad; quite the opposite, actually. For example, let’s go back to May 17th, 2010. I was in this LGBTQ group in the Socialdemocratic Youth Organization,  planning some urban intervention in Santa Fe  for […]

The Thrill is Not Gone; Just Misplaced
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The Thrill is Not Gone; Just Misplaced

You’ve been together, you and your partner, for a long time.  A very long time.  The Thrill isn’t gone, per se, but you’re having a difficult time finding it.  You know you left it around here somewhere.  Where WAS the last place you left that Thrill? You still get busy […]

TGIF Video: Hannah + Kristie’s Quonquont Farm Wedding
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TGIF Video: Hannah + Kristie’s Quonquont Farm Wedding

Hannah and Kristie live in western Mass where they’re building their family and creating their home.  Hanna blogs at the homesteady, a visual feast and an infectiously engaging blog that will make you want to move to the country and pack cool things into mason jars, or die trying.  The […]

A List is Just a List
Sex & relationships

A List is Just a List

I’m a list-maker.  I love lists.  Lists help me feel organized and in control of my world.  Writing the list is an act of achievement in itself.  I don’t have to cross off a single item to feel a sense of accomplishment.  I made a list!  I write down errands […]

Counting Anniversaries That Don’t Count
Culture / Life / Sex & relationships

Counting Anniversaries That Don’t Count

Me:  It’s August 1st!  Happy Canadian Wedding Anniversary!! Gabriella:  Have you seen my gold, strappy sandals? Me:  The wedges?  They’re so high.  Are you going to wear them to work?  You’re going to break your neck. Gabriella:  I’m going to be sitting down all day. Me:  Yeah, but you have […]

Gettin’ Hitched
Life / Sex & relationships

Gettin’ Hitched

LesFam Managing Editor Vikki Reich files this report as the last of our regularly scheduled “Lawfully Wedded Life” posts.  Some 37 more states continue to battle for marriage equality, and regardless of how or whether we’re partnered, the law’s recognizing that partnership (or not) will be a source for reflection and posts […]