Identity

The Media and the Erasure of Queer Sexuality
Identity / Life / Sex & relationships

The Media and the Erasure of Queer Sexuality

What do roommates, friends, gal pals and fans have in common? They are all words that erase queer relationships.

Relentlessly Gay
Identity / Life

Relentlessly Gay

Dear Outspoken Yet Pointedly Anonymous Author of the Now Famous “RelentlesslyGay” Letter: Allow me to introduce myself. I’m Roger. I strive, everyday, to be more #RelentlesslyGay. So you can imagine my excitement when I read your rather unhinged letter to a neighbor regarding their #RelentlesslyGay yard. A yard that disrespects […]

A Peek Into the Future
Identity / Life

A Peek Into the Future

The year is 2296. We are at a passenger jettube educational station (otherwise known as a school bus stop) with parents and middle school children.

Photo credit: My Coded Decoded
Identity / Life

Learning the Queer Alphabet

We are so much more than a single letter; we are more than what others perceive us to be.

Hello Mike Brady...
Identity / Life

What Made Me Gay

Forget the distant fathers and overbearing mothers. Or was it the affectionate fathers and the unavailable mothers? Maybe it was the effete fathers and butch mothers.

Trans 101: DOs and DON’Ts
Advice / Identity / Life

Trans 101: DOs and DON’Ts

So your co-worker, aunt, favorite celebrity, or daughter’s BFF is transitioning. How do you deal?

Weathering Seasons of Change
Identity / Life / Sex & relationships

Weathering Seasons of Change

We are all, always, embodiments of emergence. We’re just unaware of this fact until life presents us with ground-shaking change.

U.S. Air Force Illustration/ Senior Airman Michael Smith
Identity / Life

Trans-military: A Personal Perspective on Serving

I deserve the right to retire in whatever rank I choose without feeling coerced or lesser because I do not fit within a regulation that the military says I should. I have earned it. It is my right.

Wedding Aisle or Line in the Sand: Dance with the Loving
Identity / Life

Wedding Aisle or Line in the Sand: Dance with the Loving

SPOILER ALERT: If you’re looking for some kind of Housewives-style smackdown, you’re about to be sorely disappointed.

Passing As Straight
Identity / Life

Passing As Straight

When wearing my “I Love My Portuguese Husband” shirt, I’ve wondered if I pass as straight. Now I have the answer.