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Reflections on a Queer Childhood: Problem Solving From the Closet

For me to fit in, or even pretend to fit in, I simply could not be out. So I did what any “normal, red-blooded American male” does.

First row. Fourth from the left. Happy and clueless.
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Reflections on a Queer Childhood: Make Your Own Kind of Music

I must have been just on the cusp of discovering that in order to fit in I would have to pretend to be someone else.

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Reflections on a Queer Childhood: Fantasy Football

For me the whole endeavor was like being waterboarded. I knew it wasn’t going to kill me, but my brain told me it might.

Reflections on a Queer Childhood: Growing Up in the Shadow of AIDS
Grief & loss / Identity / Life

Reflections on a Queer Childhood: Growing Up in the Shadow of AIDS

I, like so many gay men of my generation, discovered who we are, and how our country feels about who we are, while growing up in the shadow of AIDS.

On National Coming Out Day: A Look Back at My First Time
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On National Coming Out Day: A Look Back at My First Time

I was petrified of the future laid out before me. All I knew was that my life would hemorrhage with secrecy and fiction, that what I wanted didn’t exist, and that a full, happy life wasn’t possible. That was what I knew. That was all I knew.

I Hate National Coming Out Day
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I Hate National Coming Out Day

I hate National Coming Out Day. I have hated it since I first learned about it. Once, in college, I spent the entire day hiding in bed. I hate National Coming Out Day because I hate coming out. If you know me, you probably think there’s a punchline coming. I’m […]

I Was Not Born This Way: A Response to Conversion Therapy
Health & Wellness / Identity / Life

I Was Not Born This Way: A Response to Conversion Therapy

The problem with conversion therapy is not the conviction that sexuality and gender are mutable. Instead, it is the notion that heterosexuality and gender conformity are best.

Hot Lesbians as Defined by an Actual Lesbian
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Hot Lesbians as Defined by an Actual Lesbian

To say someone is hot is, of course, subjective. When you put hot and lesbian together, you can’t consider physical appearance because to say hot lesbian is to describe a group of people who cannot be defined by physicality alone.

Why Storytelling Matters
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Why Storytelling Matters

Every LGBT person has a hundred coming out stories. This is one of mine.

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5 Things Queer Women Can Expect at Straight Conferences

Have you ever been the queer girl surrounded by sweater sets at an event? We have some advice for you.