Family / Family-building

On Stress…

Lately, stress, and inter-couple stress while TTC seems to be a topic of conversation that’s running rampant through the queer parents blogosphere. I’ve read of some break-ups, some really rough arguments and many tearful breakdowns. I must confess though. S and I have had next to NO TTC (or otherwise) […]

Family / News & Politics / Parenting

“Married” Moms vs “Unmarried” Moms?

UPDATE: This is cross-posted over at SoVo! Babytalk magazine is related to Parenting magazine, but oriented towards parents of babies. (I know you’re shocked.) In the current issue of Babytalk, there’s a survey: “Married Moms vs Unmarried Moms.” Smackdown at the playgroup! There are so many things that trouble me […]

Family / Parenting

Film Flashback

A few months back, the three of us decided to attend a film and panel discussion, held at one of the local universities in our city. The film, entitled The Politics of the Heart (click for video) documents the fight for recognition of their familes by queer parents in Québec. […]

Books / Culture / Family / Kids / Parenting

A Starry Coverlet of Velvet Possibility

Someone suggested to me that I write this week on trying to have a sex life with my partner while raising a toddler. I think she thought this would be a hard thing to do. Not the writing about it, goodness knows I can write about sex as long as […]

Family / Family-building

Third-party reproduction

Melissa, aka The Town Criers, is starting a chapter on assisted reproduction for her book. She’s particularly interested in interviewing folks, among others,  who used assisted conception because they are in a same-sex relationship. If you’re up for talking to her, you can email her at and she’ll send you […]

Books / Culture / Family / Parenting

I’m Curious

How do those of you who have two careers and babies/small children manage it? This has been the subject of some recent heated discussion in the art-sweet/pili household and after trying to organize my thoughts on the issue into a coherent post far too many times, I’ve decided to wimp […]

Family / Family-building

Even though we ‘aint got money…

Recently, it’s been hard for me to concentrate about anything except money, and finances, and our future. So instead of writing about something “new,” I’m going to let you in on some of the things that have been keeping me up at night. Now, I’m not a stranger to being […]

Family / Parenting

P*nis down

In the past week, my son Roo has made it through exactly two nights without waking up soaking wet and howling. We use cloth diapers, so we switched to the thicker night covers. Then night covers with doublers. Then those brown disposables from Whole Paycheck. Then the good old-fashioned ultra-bleached, Bert-and-Ernie-on-the-front […]

Books / Family / Kids

Weekend Reading: Baby Lust

Sometimes I feel guilty expressing my strong desire for another child. I read so many blogs of people trying for their first baby and think of my own precocious cuddler and I lose my breath at my presumption. How dare I try for another piece of snuggly perfection, don’t I […]

Family / Family-building

Building Castles in the Sky

I thought I’d take a moment and talk about something a little different today. Usually, when I write about families, or TTC, I’m writing not only about our trials on the journey, but our hopes of raising a little one, and experiencing all that comes along with that.  But right […]