Family-building

Separating Adoptee Rights from Homophobia
Family / Family-building

Separating Adoptee Rights from Homophobia

Last week, I mentioned Amanda, of The Declassified Adoptee, as one of my favorite sources for learning about what it feels like to be adopted. This week, I wanted to share something I once wrote as an invited guest at Amanda’s blog. It pertains specifically to the cross-over issues between […]

What’s Love Got to Do with It?
Books / Culture / Family / Family-building

What’s Love Got to Do with It?

Lately, I’ve been thinking about the intersection of a couple of ideas, that at first glance, seem to contradict one another. The first is “Love Makes a Family.” It’s the rallying cry for us queers and our sometimes odd assemblages of chosen and inherited family. It’s a slogan I can […]

Family / Family-building / Parenting

Is She an Only Child?

Our daughter is that age. You know the age. When all of her little friends have new siblings. And she… doesn’t. Now, she also has friends who are only children; friends whose parents only want one child and are happy with their one. And that’s okay. But then there are […]

Lez Talk About Donors
Family / Family-building

Lez Talk About Donors

When lesbians have kids, people of the world are suddenly entitled to ask how you got them. No one tells you this and maybe you don’t expect it but it just happens. I remember the first time my partner and I took our newborn son out into the world with […]

On the Road to Find Out
Family / Family-building / Parenting

On the Road to Find Out

The first time I heard Cat Stevens’ “On the Road to Find Out” (as a teenager, while watching Harold and Maude with my beloved “Island of Misfit Toys” friends), the song broke me open in that teary-eyed, truth-that-knocks-the-wind-out-of-you way. Taking the first shaky steps of what would become a decades-long […]

A Lesbian Housewife Explains it All to You
Family / Family-building

A Lesbian Housewife Explains it All to You

As a lesbian housewife and homeschooling, transracially adoptive mom, I spend a lot of time explaining myself and my family. One of the (countless!) nice things about LesbianFamily.com is that we can all catch a little breather from the Splain-O-Lympics. While we may not all be in quite the same […]

Family / Family-building

Research on LGBTQ loss during pregnancy, birth, surrogacy, or adoption

Posted on behalf of Friend of the Family, Dr. Christa Craven! Please consider participating if you have survived a loss of this type: There are few resources addressing lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender or queer (LGBTQ) experiences with the loss of a baby during pregnancy, birth, surrogacy, or adoption.  In fact, […]

Family / Family-building

Bi-weekly question: Advice to my old self

Thank you to everyone who responded to the last questions.  Since, again, this is a great place to learn from one another, this post’s question is: If you could go back in time, what would you tell yourself (and/or your partner) upon starting your journey to have a child?  Please […]

Where’s Daddy?
Family / Family-building / Parenting

Where’s Daddy?

Disturbing encounter #1: I am walking down our street in our new city, balancing a very cranky heavy little boy and pushing the container of flesh eating ants or so you’d think from his screams stroller with my remaining pinky finger.  An older couple is leaving their house.  I smile […]

Family / Family-building

Way to go Maine!!

Lesbian Couple Victorious in Court : Earlier today the Maine Supreme Judicial Court ruled that a lesbian couple should be able to adopt two siblings. From an email from Equality Maine’s executive Director, Betsy Smith: “As many of you know, today’s ruling marks the first time in Maine history that a same-sex […]