Articles written by: Susan

Susan is a writer, editor, essayist and blogger (Mama Non Grata), and coeditor of the award-winning anthology And Baby Makes More: Known Donors, Queer Parents and Our Unexpected Families (Insomniac Press, 2009). Her personal essays have been featured in Ms. magazine, Lilithmagazine, Here Come the Brides: Reflections on Lesbian Love and Marriage (Seal Press, 2012), Chasing Rainbows: Exploring Gender-Fluid Parenting Practices (forthcoming, Demeter Press), McGraw-Hill Ryerson’s iLit textbook series, Xtra!, interfaithfamily.com and The Globe & Mail, among others. Susan lives in Thunder Bay, Ontario, with her partner, their two sons, two cats, and approximately a trillion Pokémon cards.

VQ Comes Out: Not so much “out” as “are”
Life

VQ Comes Out: Not so much “out” as “are”

It’s VQ Comes Out: our week-long series honoring National Coming Out Day and LGBT History month. Susan’s story involves … Women’s Studies! And a little epistemology. How do you come out when you are out? ~ The Editors [hr] When did you come out (or how many times, if it’s been a multilayered process)? […]

O, Canada? Whose Canada?
News & Politics

O, Canada? Whose Canada?

As VillageQ’s resident Canadian blogger, I would like to take this opportunity to inform you that, up here, the government is open for business. I’m not really gloating here — our prime minister, Stephen Harper, is and has been quite capable of his own version of shutting government down (in […]

In which I am a wee bit punchy about the beginning of school
Family / Kids / Parenting

In which I am a wee bit punchy about the beginning of school

If you’re reading this, it means my children are back in school. And while I would weep for joy, there’s no point, because I’m just going to pull them out again tomorrow for a few hours to go to Rosh Hashanah services. It’s a bit of a cruel joke, the […]

Defending my right to be a mediocre (queer) parent
Family / Parenting

Defending my right to be a mediocre (queer) parent

You know, I’ve never particularly felt the need to defend my parenting skills as a queer mom. Maybe it’s because I have a supportive extended family: my own parents, my mother-in-law, my brother, all my cousins — even our sperm donor’s family — were (and still are) thrilled and excited […]

PHOTO CREDIT: Costumekingdom
Culture / Portraits

Oh, Thank the Goddess!

Okay, I’m just going to say it, with all due respect for those who feel differently than me: I’ve never been a fan of the word lesbian. There’s just something about it that doesn’t work for me. It sounds wrong, the stretched-out leeezzzz feels (and sounds), well, kind of lecherous, […]

The Yoga Class Incident, Part II: Karma
Family / Kids / Parenting

The Yoga Class Incident, Part II: Karma

    For those of you who missed it, here is a small recap of Part I: Approximately eight years ago, when Rowan was an infant and slept not a whit and I was therefore certifiably insane, I threatened our donor, Rob, with grievous bodily harm (well, in truth I […]

Four (Same-Sex) Weddings and a Funeral
Sex & relationships

Four (Same-Sex) Weddings and a Funeral

Settle down for a fantastic “long form” read for this week’s  Lawfully Wedded Life essay from regular Lesbian Family contributor Susan Goldberg. This piece first appeared in Lillith, was excerpted in Ms., and was included in the Lambda Literary Award-nominated anthology Here Come The Brides.  Do you have a story to tell about […]

Glam pink shirt in the bathroom selfie. More dyke mom street cred.
Family / Parenting

Pink Shirt Day fail

The school playground yesterday afternoon was dotted with more pink than usual, and that was when I realized that — once again — I’d completely forgotten about Pink Shirt Day. April 10, apparently, was the Day of Pink, or, as it’s more succinctly known, “the international day against bullying, discrimination, […]

On sleeplessness and surrogacy
Family / Family-building / Parenting

On sleeplessness and surrogacy

This post is brought to you by insomnia. I was awake from two-ish until well past four-ish last night, as was my partner, with our two children making guest appearances in our little show of sleeplessness. In some ways, it was good that they both needed resettling around four: I […]

Life’s a beach
Family / Parenting

Life’s a beach

Greetings from sunny Boca Raton, Florida! Okay, fine. I’m not actually in sunny Boca Raton, Florida. Yet. I’m in grey, snowy, Thunder Bay, Ontario. Canada (where we spell it “grey”). But I’m writing this post in advance, because I’m not going to bring my computer on vacation. And boy, I […]