Articles written by: Shannon

Shannon is a lesbian housewife with two homeschooled daughters. She and her partner, Cole, were extra-legally married in 2003 and adopted their children through domestic, open, transracial adoption in 2005 and 2007. Shannon has been writing about culture, politics, race, religion and family since 2000 both online and off, in places like LiteraryMama.com, Babble.com, Adoptive Families Magazine, Gay Chicago Magazine and BlogHer.com. She and her family live near Lake Michigan in Chicago.

Just another lesbian and her cat.
Life

VQ Comes Out: Joining the Softball Team

Shannon’s story is next up in our series VQ Comes Out – coming out stories in honor of National Coming Out Day and LGBT History month.  A cat, a softball team, and a coming out coach: three things a freshly out gal can be very grateful for.  ~ The Editors [hr] When did you […]

Back-to-School, or Home-Again, Home-Again
Family / School

Back-to-School, or Home-Again, Home-Again

We are entering our second year of homeschooling. Last year was our exploration year, in which we found out what seemed to work for us and what doesn’t work so well. The main feature of homeschooling—the best and the worst of it, all at once, I think—is its individuality. The […]

GLBT vs. Queer
Culture / Life

GLBT vs. Queer

I have a confession. I really loathe the term “GLBT.” There are several reasons why. I think for me, the most annoying thing about it is its simplistic linear quality; its single dimension. You can pick one of those letters, but at no point do they intersect. This may be […]

Civil Rights Whiplash: This Week at the Supreme Court
Family / News & Politics / Sex & relationships

Civil Rights Whiplash: This Week at the Supreme Court

I laughed…I cried…I made a puzzled face and clicked over to FindLaw to download the text of this week’s Supreme Court decisions in the U. S. And the conclusion I came to was that I feel…some kind of way about the court deciding we no longer need perhaps the most […]

Shacking Up without Telling the Kids
Family / Kids / Parenting

Shacking Up without Telling the Kids

The following is the second in our ongoing Wednesday series, Lawfully Wedded Life. Do you have a story to tell about marriage, marriage equality, or the lack thereof? Submit yours here. We’ll be running the series through the SCOTUS marriage equality decision(s), expected late June 2013.   Our kids don’t […]

Old Fogies with Pretty Babies
Family / Parenting

The Upside to Being an “Older” Parent

Seven years ago, I was 36, my partner was 49, and our first daughter was one. As happens from time to time, regular as the tides, there was some flurry in the mainstream press about the evils of selfish feminists waiting too long to become parents, much to the detriment […]

Children’s Books for the “Gender Variant”
Books / Culture

Children’s Books for the “Gender Variant”

Maria L. Hughes, of ChildrensBookstore.com recently contacted me to share a bit about some of the books she likes for kids who are–or who are interested in learning more about being–“gender variant.” “Gender variant” is a loose term meant to include any kid who feels constrained by the rigidity of […]

Bent Gender Doesn’t Break
Family / Parenting

Bent Gender Doesn’t Break

Recently, I have been challenged on my lesbianism by people who say I’m really “genderqueer” and on my gender queerness, by people who say I’m too girly. Oh, the oversimplifications we deal with as queers! My partner and I have always tried to raise our kids with a complex understanding […]

Crying through the Legal Wedding
Life / News & Politics / Sex & relationships

Something Old

Cole and I will celebrate our tenth wedding anniversary this summer. We used that as an excuse to stay at a really nice resort this weekend while in Tucson to attend the wedding of one of Cole’s best friends. (In fact, the friend was herself Cole’s “best man”–and pregnant with […]

The Purim Superhero: A Holiday Story by and for Queer Family
Books / Culture / Family / Parenting

The Purim Superhero: A Holiday Story by and for Queer Family

Because I am exceptionally lucky, I have known Els Kushner for several years, via the magic of the Internet. When I heard that her first picture book was finally released, I was eager to see the final results of something I got to watch happening behind the scenes. It was […]