Articles written by: Dylan

Dylan writes about being a queer and trans parent over at Queer Dads Blog. He is a Midwesterner at heart, having lived in five different Midwestern states before landing in Minnesota. When he's not wrangling his kids he works with an LGBTQ health advocacy organization. Dylan lives with his partner and two kids in Minneapolis.

Asparagus and Love
Life / Sex & relationships

Asparagus and Love

One of the many wonderful things about our new house is the giant garden the previous owner established. It came with a strawberry patch and four huge empty beds just waiting to be planted with veggies. Yesterday, we planted scarlet emperor runner beans around a bamboo frame. Scarlet emperor beans have […]

Moving Adventures
Family / Kids

Moving Adventures

It’s hard not to feel sad about leaving our old neighborhood. I’ll miss the little routines and memories you build in a place. But building new relationships is one way change happens and the way we build community.

It's ok that you're crabby, I'm adorable
Family / Parenting

Even grown-ups get grumpy

I know that I am not at my parenting best in these moments, nor am I a very good partner. I snap at the first sign of a toddler whine and if Little Bear throws food on the floor, my stern if-I-were-any-louder-I’d-be-yelling voice comes out. Even though it might feel good for a split second in the moment, that isn’t the sort of person I want to be.

Crafty Dad
Family

Crafty Dad

My kid has been on a dumpling kick. Last time I took her to United Noodles I let her pick out a package of frozen dumplings and we discovered she loves them. “Ummmm…. dumplings!” became the response to the question “what would you like for snack?” She cried great big two-year-old tears […]

Book Review |  Chasing Rainbows: Exploring Gender Fluid Parenting Practices
Books / Culture / Family / Kids

Book Review | Chasing Rainbows: Exploring Gender Fluid Parenting Practices

Chasing Rainbows: Exploring Gender Fluid Parenting Practices (Fiona J. Green and May Friedman, eds. Demeter Press, 2013) was a thoroughly enjoyable book, featuring a mix of articles ranging from academic studies to personal reflections on parenting practices surrounding gender self-determination. I would be remiss if I didn’t mention that it also […]

Laughing at rudimentary jokes. "Guess what's funny? Poop!"
Family / Kids / Parenting

Almost two

I’m currently writing this blog at the beginning of a week-long work trip. This will be the longest I have ever been away from my kid and I am currently feeling pretty bummed. I am going to miss her “Wake up Daddy, wake up!” in the morning and her demanding “Read a […]

Me, out as trans to my friends but not really my family.
Life

VQ Comes Out: Third time’s the charm

Next up for VQ Comes Out – our series of  coming out stories in honor of National Coming Out Day and LGBT History month – is Dylan’s story.  Like C.J.’s this morning, Dylan’s coming out story has included multiple layers and several iterations.  One interesting difference? Dylan’s parents had a point where they hoped […]

Adventures in heteronormativity
Family / Identity / Parenting

Adventures in heteronormativity

Picture the scene, if you will. I come home from work and Little Bear dashes over and clambers into my lap with a book to read. It’s one of those word flap books where each room is a room in a hypothetical house, you lift a flap and the word […]

Getting to Know You
Family / Kids / Parenting

Getting to Know You

Meet Dylan Flunker, the first in a clump of new regular contributors here at VillageQ! He’ll be filing monthly posts and we’re thrilled to have him aboard. ~VQ Eds   Welcome to VillageQ! My name is Dylan. I usually don’t look quite as fabulous as in this photo, but I’ve […]