Articles written by: Cheryl Dumesnil

A freelance writer and writing coach, Cheryl Dumesnil likes nothing more than laughing at the crazy things her kids say. Her books include a memoir, Love Song for Baby X: How I Stayed (Almost) Sane on the Rocky Road to Parenthood; a collection of poems, In Praise of Falling; the anthology Hitched! Wedding Stories from San Francisco City Hall; and the anthology Dorothy Parker’s Elbow: Tattoos on Writers, Writers on Tattoos, co-edited with Kim Addonizio. When she’s not writing or teaching, Cheryl’s hiking, yoga-ing, begging her children to stop the potty talk please, or trying to toss pop flies, without tearing her rotator cuff. Check her out at CherylDumesnil.com.

Let’s Be the Allies Our Muslim Neighbors Need
News & Politics

Let’s Be the Allies Our Muslim Neighbors Need

Dear VillageQ Family, My heart is breaking for my Muslim friends. The Islamophobic rantings, the characterization of Muslims as terrorists, the unconscionable suggestions that Muslims be banned or tagged or quarantined in the U.S.—this recent up-swell of hate is hurting so many good and peaceful people. While going about their […]

Divorce Sucks: The Birthday Episode
Kids / Parenting

Divorce Sucks: The Birthday Episode

Divorce sucks and my kids no longer have the kind of mom they once had.

The Divorce Files: Upsides of Moving Out
Life / Sex & relationships

The Divorce Files: Upsides of Moving Out

Thoughts on divorce: Yes, there will be an after.

LGBT Allies: Small Gestures Make a Big Difference
Life

LGBT Allies: Small Gestures Make a Big Difference

When meeting someone new, we ask the same question: How does this person feel about LGBT people? But the underlying question is: Am I safe?

Beyond Talk: Helping Kids Deal with Divorce
Parenting

Beyond Talk: Helping Kids Deal with Divorce

“It’s not your fault” and “We will always take care of you”—those phrases don’t have the leverage necessary to lift that weight.

Sex Talk: The Awkwardness of the Mother Is Visited Upon her Sons
Parenting

Sex Talk: The Awkwardness of the Mother Is Visited Upon her Sons

I asked my kids, in the context of a conversation about song lyrics, what they think “sexy” means, and both my sons made it abundantly clear that they are suddenly totally disgusted by any talk about sex, bodies, or puberty.

Are You an OLP? (Overprotective Lesbian Parent)
Family / Kids / Parenting

Are You an OLP? (Overprotective Lesbian Parent)

This morning I dropped my ten-year-old son off at school with everything he needed to survive a two-night field trip in California’s Gold Country: two pairs of shorts (he hates pants), two shirts, two pairs each of underwear and socks, minimal toiletries, a jacket that he’s unlikely to wear, four […]

Religious Refusal Bills: The New Battleground for LGBTQ Rights
News & Politics

Religious Refusal Bills: The New Battleground for LGBTQ Rights

These bills are “a backlash reaction to achieving marriage equality for same-sex couples,” says Jane Henegar, executive director of the ACLU of Indiana. These bills threaten to erode our hard-won rights and protections.

Who Would Jesus Refuse?
News & Politics

What Would Jesus Say About SB 101?

Damn, Indiana, if you didn’t get me going this morning, by passing SB 101, described by Lambda Legal as a “deeply flawed bill designed to allow private businesses, individuals and organizations to discriminate against anyone in Indiana on religious grounds.”

Weathering Seasons of Change
Identity / Life / Sex & relationships

Weathering Seasons of Change

We are all, always, embodiments of emergence. We’re just unaware of this fact until life presents us with ground-shaking change.